Picture this: You’re responding to some emails at your favorite local coffee shop when you catch the eye of a beautiful woman who just walked in. You are so enthralled by her that you find it challenging to continue to focus on what you were working on. While you feel the urge to strike up a conversation, how can you get her attention Balim?
1. Before approaching, study her body language
First and foremost, ensure the woman you’d like to have a conversation with isn’t in a rush, distracted, or simply not in the mood to converse with a stranger. This can be the case from time to time, so don’t take it personally if she politely declines any of your advances. Consider the environment you’re in before approaching her. If you’re at a coffee shop and she’s in line on her phone with what seems to be a work bag on her shoulder, she may be in a rush to get to work and therefore not be open to conversation. Similarly, if she’s avoiding eye contact and standing with a closed stance (turned away from you or arms crossed), these are good indicators that she’s not interested in a conversation. This helpful chart is a good tool to reference when determining if the woman you’re interested in is feeling approachable or not. If most signs point to yes, go ahead and make your move by trying some of the suggestions below!
2. Start with a simple “Hello!”
The easiest way to approach any person is by offering a simple greeting. A smile and a nod, a wave, a “Hi, how’s it going?” or “Good morning!” are all friendly ways to approach a woman and gauge her interest before deciding to engage in further conversation. Remember to be mindful of her body language. If she appears open to conversing, be sure to have a few “go-to” topics handy to keep the discussion flowing. You could further the conversation by commenting on the weather, asking if she comes here often, or inquiring about her plans for the day. Here’s what to say when approaching a woman that will pique her interest.
3. Ask to share a space
One way to approach a woman in a common area is to ask to share a space with her, such as a table at a coffee shop or a seat on public transportation. If the area you’re in is crowded, asking permission to share a space with her is courteous, and she will appreciate the respectful gesture. However, she may not appreciate sharing a spot if there are many empty seats or tables, so consider one of our other approaches if this is the case.
4. Make small talk
While small talk may not be your favorite thing to do, engaging in small talk with a woman can lead
